Test du style d'attachement

Ce que ça mesure

This self-check measures your adult attachment style — the characteristic pattern of thoughts, feelings, and behaviours you tend to bring to close and romantic relationships. It is based on the ECR-R (Experiences in Close Relationships – Revised) two-dimension model developed by Fraley, Waller and Brennan (2000), which places every person on two continuous axes — attachment anxiety and attachment avoidance — rather than forcing them into rigid boxes.

Comment ça marche

You rate 12 first-person statements on a five-point agreement scale from "Strongly disagree" to "Strongly agree". Six items tap attachment-related anxiety (fear of rejection or abandonment; need for reassurance) and six tap attachment-related avoidance (discomfort with closeness and dependence). Some items are reverse-scored so that high scores consistently reflect high anxiety or high avoidance. Your two dimension scores are each expressed as a 0–100 % percentage and mapped onto a two-by-two quadrant at the 50 % midpoint: low anxiety + low avoidance → Secure; high anxiety + low avoidance → Anxious/Preoccupied; low anxiety + high avoidance → Avoidant/Dismissing; high anxiety + high avoidance → Fearful-Avoidant. The check takes around three to four minutes.

Conseils pour un résultat fiable

• 1Attachment styles are not fixed labels — Research shows that attachment security can increase meaningfully across the lifespan — through therapy, positive relationship experiences, greater self-awareness, and deliberate practice. Your result today is a snapshot, not a life sentence.
• 2Notice your patterns in low-stakes moments — The clearest window into your attachment style is often in small, everyday moments — how you feel when a partner doesn't text back, or when someone asks how you really are. Keeping a brief journal of these micro-moments builds powerful self-awareness over time.
• 3Talk about attachment with your partner — Sharing your results (and reading your partner's, if they are willing) can open up conversations that rarely happen otherwise. Understanding each other's underlying needs — for reassurance or for space — often defuses conflicts that seem to be about something else entirely.
• 4Seek support if the pattern is causing distress — If your attachment style is significantly affecting your relationships or wellbeing, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) has one of the strongest evidence bases of any therapy for attachment-related difficulties. An attachment-informed therapist can help you understand the roots of the pattern and build genuine security.
• 5Context matters — Most people feel more secure in some relationships than others. You might be securely attached in friendships but more anxious in romance, or vice versa. This check captures your general tendency — not a universal law about every relationship you will ever have.